Isn't this the season where I should be sharing gift guides? Well.....you really can't count on me for that because it would require planning:)
Let's see....my plan.....wakeup and try to be positive. That's a start right? I'm working on it.....
I got some news about a week ago that rocked my world. Let's just say this....you live with someone for 30 years and then you think WTH.....who was he....I mean was everything a lie? I heard a quote from.....I think Maya Angelou..... that was "when people show you who they are....believe them". I guess I am a slow learner....or just too trusting.
So I am trying to come to grips and will admit it has set me back a little.
Anyway....I don't want to whine about my
crap cause we all have something to deal with right? I mean....pandemic?
About a month ago I posted about some final [ha who am I kidding] updates to the Madison project....[not the Christmas decor post] but I forgot a few spaces so since I'm desperate for content today.....let's just go there so I can check the "blog post" box today:)
And of course I added a pillow:)
As I always say....at least in my world..... it's all about the layers. And making sure there is the proper amount of patina in a room....you want to make sure it doesn't look like a furniture showroom.....
That's just me but after 25 years at this I think it's a good formula :)
You know what a good client is?
That I don't have to stop and call about every little treasure I find for a room....that they trust me. I mean isn't that why you hire a designer? Surely you can go out and buy the basics like furniture but I think you hire a designer to give it a unique look.....just my 2 cents:)
I hope you all have a good weekend.....I am actually headed to Madison tomorrow for the night to help decorate the tree and enjoy some Christmas festivities with my neighbors. Anne will probably cook an amazing dinner and I will pick on Todd just enough so that he knows I still love him....haha
And.....Emily [their daughter] and I will trade sarcastic comments about life situations!
Bless my neighbors as they have been incredible since my husband left me.
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Sherry,
I am so sorry you are going thru such a difficult time. I don’t have any insight or the right words to comfort you. Just know that I have read your posts for years and love your talent, vulnerability and candor. And I hope things get better soon.
Take good, good care,
Sharon
My heart hurts for you when you write about the pain from betrayal of your ex. I am so sorry you have to go through this. I know how you feel because I too went through it back in 2005 (similar circumstances) Even though I am happily remarried, still there are times when I catch my self replaying the scenario in my head... I am much quicker to interrupt my self now and remind my self to not waist any more of my precious life on someone that didn’t deserve me.
Divorce is like a death, and like a death, requires 7 stages of grieving . Each step takes different period of time to go through and is unique for each individual. For me as years have passed I’ve realized that my post divorce sadness was related to the broken dreams that were no longer and not at all to the divorce with my ex. I’m now living bigger dreams than I ever dreamed of with my ex. I wish you the same and I believe your happy path is around the bend! You are a terrific person and deserve a partner that makes you smile! Enjoy your weekend and don’t stress about the ticks, I think it’s too cold for them to be out this time of the year. Thank you for another great post!
That wallpaper made me gasp.
Just a note to say how much you are appreciated by your world of blog reading friends! Have a great fun weekend - xoxo
Sherry,
That Maya Angelou quote has long been one of my favorites. I play it in my head often and remind my kids of it as well. I have read your blog for years and look forward to every post. My heart hurts for the pain that you are going through but at the same time am excited to see what the future holds for you as you are so clearly a dynamic, talented and lovely woman who deserves the same qualities in a partner. No doubt your life will be rich and full and you will come through this darkness stronger than before.
Keep on.
- Mary
I absolutely love everything you do. I decorate with 'neutrals' but that's just because I'm not confident enough to do anything else. And to be truthful, I don't exactly have a 'deft hand' even with the neutrals. LOL We are building a new home here in Colorado and it will be our last home . . . what I wouldn't give to get your help. :) Just know your work, your attitude, your positivity and humor, your HEART, are very much appreciated by your readers. The fact that your ex couldn't see that is his loss. I know that sounds trite, I know you've heard it before . . . just believe it. Merry Christmas, and may your New Year be blessed.
I look forward to your posts, and have been reading your blog for such a long time that I feel like I know you. I hurt for you when I read about the issues with your ex. I have gone through that experience with such betrayal & with abuse. But I can assure you that there is a light at the end of that tunnel and it will be so much better. He can’t keep a person like yourself down, You’re much to kind, witty and talented for that.
Just know that when you feel like this will never end, you have people pulling for you and wishing you all the best.
I want to echo all the comments above. You are an amazing woman. Don’t let your ex dictate your life! Merry Christmas and hope 2021 will be a better year for not just you but everybody!
You are amazing, tough, resilient and human. Enjoy being surrounded by friends and on the other side - “F*%@ ‘em’.
I am so sorry for what you are going through with your ex. As one of your other comments stated--Divorce is like a death in that you have to go through the process--I believe this to be so true. Often we want others to treat divorce as something to get over fast while they give generouse amounts of love, understanding, and patience to widows/widowers. It is so unfair. Please grieve for the loss that is so real. And be good to yourself.
Sherry-
You are so amazing and always have been! Such an inspiration, and you deserve so much better. Sending you all the love and hugs and well wishes!
Sarah
A friend of mine went through the same exact trauma...twice. There are some men that should be sent to Pluto to live because they aren't worth space on earth. You are a good person and deserve better than that. Family and friends are everything and from reading your blog I can see that you have benefited in both. You are a special woman and never forget it.
Hi Sherry, Sending you virtual hugs and a huge high five for getting through this insane year! Keep being you and realize that all we can ever control is ourselves. When others betray us that is on them. You are such a source of light and laughter in the world and time will heal a lot of the wounds that you are dealing with now. Reach out when you need a lift or a hand or reassurance. Your neighbors and your readers and your family and friends are all here to help, love and treasure. xo
Hi Sherry,
I've always really like that Mya Angelo quote. It's true, but that doesn't mean we are always free or strong enough to act on it. Don't beat yourself up over it. Peoples actions say so much more about them than you. Take faith in Karma, it knows all. Oprah says, "when we know better, we do better." be kind to yourself, look forward to what life has in store for you on this new journey and give that cute pup a big kiss!
Hi Sherry,
Ditto on everything all the others have said about your beautiful soul and your talent. I had my husband walk out suddenly after forty years. The hardest part was his total lack of any positive regard for me after that and the cold and vacant eyes. I learned quickly to prepare myself for what ever the worst thing I could think of him doing would be, because it often happened. If you haven't already read it, please get yourself a copy of Runaway Husband by Vikki Stark. It will answer a lot of things for you. I was dumbfounded when I read the list of Hallmarks of a Runaway Husband. They all fit, and I had never heard of this phenomenon until it happened to me. Because it is such a trauma, I still struggle to stop thinking about it almost a year and a half later, not because I pine for him, but because someone I had loved and trusted had hurt and betrayed me so badly. Vikki also has retreats, virtual this year, and I found that helpful in resolving a lot for me and lifting my spirits. There is something very moving about being in the company of others who have suffered the same trauma. She has a website runawayhusbands.com. It takes a long time to heal, but I am proud of the woman I am and nothing can take that away from me. Sending you love.
I like your honesty. Let me say it again. I like your honesty. I do not see it as whining. I only know of you through this blog but I enjoy your comments and photos. I like the items you pick up at consignment. Interesting! And the chair in the bathroom with the towels--great idea. Also love the vintage chest for storage. Also, I am with you on the pillows. Have a good weekend.
well damn, more "surprises" in the form of betrayal and no doubt cruelty.
you are so loved Sherry, please know that and as you rise, realize the flaws and cowardice are his. he can deeply hurt you but he cannot define you. there will be a time when he is such an after thought, and the light forward shines on you
hugs and love
Debra
May I make one comment about your “life situation”/aka divorce. He didn’t leave you, he set you free. Free to be the best possible version of YOU! Yes, it has taken - and still takes - time to heal the wounds but you. will. come. thru. this. the BEST version of Sherry Hart!
What a joy it is for me to see a blog update from you in my inbox! I love seeing what you put together to make a home beautiful.
I’m so sorry the pain of your divorce continues. I am glad to hear you have wonderful neighbors and loving sisters. I don’t think you’re whining, only sharing.
It’s so very devastating when life slips us a curve ball. I am so sorry for your circumstances but, know this too will pass. Believe in yourself and know you have the power and insight to turn this into enlightenment and joy will return. My first husband didn’t just leave me he first announced that he no longer loved me. Hard words to hear but, I went on to a much better life without him and became grateful he was honest with me as I discovered how much I deserved to be loved really loved. I hope this holiday season gives you all the reasons to be happy and grateful in this difficult time. Much love!
I love and agree with Denise's comment above-he didn't leave you, he set you free! What a hard year this has been, but better days are coming for you!!! You're a beautiful, strong, funny, talented woman and mean so much to so many!!!
Beautiful as always! Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers! What would we do without our friends? #youaregoingtogetthroughthis
I cringe to think what heart ache came your way from your ex husband. Just know that you are wonderful, funny, talented, and loved by many.
Enjoy a fun weekend with your sweet neighbors and others. Eat, drink, and be Merry!
Thanks for the tip on being a client. I have a designer who has helped me here and there, and anything I can do to make her job nicer, I'll do.
HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!
Sherry,
Your work is so beautiful. I enjoy your posts and you being you. I wish I could give you a hug, I live near Hilton Head and Savannah, so a bit far. Don’t let someone so unworthy live rent free in your head. I know easier said than done, but it will pass.
Hugs to you!
Deb
Thanks for your honesty. Sending love and light. and that barn room? i'd never leave!!!
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