It seems like everyone else took a week off so I decided to join the pack.....:)
Did y'all have a nice Christmas.....I am trying to think of anything exciting I did since I last checked in!
Hmmmmm.....I went to the Ladisic Fine Homes party and per usual it was pretty epic!
You always have to dress WARM to this party because the back doors are all open with the bar on the covered area.....
Those doors stack all the way back....
I layered on every pearl necklace I had along with a black mock turtleneck and an OLD Banana Republic faux fur vest!
I was completely comfy and warm all night!
I had a beautiful lunch with this group of talented women.
Stacy Milburn [artist] , Andrea Costa [artist], Lauren Davenport [designer], Melisa Payne [artist], and Susan Kinsella [artist].
I am blessed to have so many supportive women in my life!
My sister had a party and these are our stockings that my Mom made for is probably 55 years old. Mine is the blue one:)
I've been friends with these girls for 20 years....[my sisters party]
On Christmas Eve day I went over to my good friend Maria's [in the picture above on the right] house to visit with her family. We played one of my favorite games Jenga
I left before they cut into this little gem that her niece made.....thank goodness:)
Her sister put these little yummies together and I could have eaten the whole tray! Just ham, cream cheese and pickled Okra.....who knew. Who is sitting around thinking up these things? I mean okra right?
I went directly to the store for these just in case I need a snack in the middle of the night....but got the wrong ones....
HOT! Nope.
Went to see Cirque Du Soliel Volta with my sisters....it was really good!
I started watching this show on Netflix and I am obsessed. When people are asking me to go out at night I am thinking to myself "but wait....I want to watch TV".....I actually stayed up until 2 am the other morning watching it. 7 seasons.....it's funny and dramatic. Ur welcome.
If you aren't on Instagram I posted this on Christmas Day of my sister and I in 1964.
Ha Ha.
So I'm not going to lie....Christmas was tough. I did put on a happy face for people because I can't walk around all gloomy and loser-like. Sometimes I walk into my house and expect to see him sitting in the office.....or at the front door when I pull into the driveway. He would let Cami out and she would run to greet me.
It's been 4 months. Legally it's still dragging on which causes it to drag on mentally. You really can't move forward until all of that is settled. You start to doubt who you were as a wife who spent 30 years with someone. Of course there were tough times....show me a marriage that does not experience highs and lows.
But I always thought we would grow old together. Now when I see older couples shopping or out to dinner....I feel a small stab in my heart.
I am a worker.....whether it's a job or a relationship I will do everything I can to be successful and keep things running smoothly. Non confrontational.....a pleaser.....I will give in to my feelings at times because I don't want the other person to feel bad. Not always a good thing I know. I have often thought..... how would it feel to have someone care that way about me....meaning.... really be concerned about my happiness [in a relationship].
Anyway....blah blah blah. Me and a million other woman in America:)
So here are a few parting pictures and words....
This little muffin has been a Godsend to me. Dirty mouth and all:)
And exercise. Seriously it helps me feel good about myself.
I saw these words somewhere.....
And this is for everyone one of you who have commented....emailed....texted and called with words of support. There is kindness in the world and I have witnessed it this year.
Happy New Year to all of you.
Sherika
You always have to dress WARM to this party because the back doors are all open with the bar on the covered area.....
Those doors stack all the way back....
I layered on every pearl necklace I had along with a black mock turtleneck and an OLD Banana Republic faux fur vest!
I was completely comfy and warm all night!
I am blessed to have so many supportive women in my life!
My sister had a party and these are our stockings that my Mom made for is probably 55 years old. Mine is the blue one:)
I've been friends with these girls for 20 years....[my sisters party]
On Christmas Eve day I went over to my good friend Maria's [in the picture above on the right] house to visit with her family. We played one of my favorite games Jenga
I left before they cut into this little gem that her niece made.....thank goodness:)
Her sister put these little yummies together and I could have eaten the whole tray! Just ham, cream cheese and pickled Okra.....who knew. Who is sitting around thinking up these things? I mean okra right?
I went directly to the store for these just in case I need a snack in the middle of the night....but got the wrong ones....
HOT! Nope.
Went to see Cirque Du Soliel Volta with my sisters....it was really good!
I started watching this show on Netflix and I am obsessed. When people are asking me to go out at night I am thinking to myself "but wait....I want to watch TV".....I actually stayed up until 2 am the other morning watching it. 7 seasons.....it's funny and dramatic. Ur welcome.
Ha Ha.
So I'm not going to lie....Christmas was tough. I did put on a happy face for people because I can't walk around all gloomy and loser-like. Sometimes I walk into my house and expect to see him sitting in the office.....or at the front door when I pull into the driveway. He would let Cami out and she would run to greet me.
It's been 4 months. Legally it's still dragging on which causes it to drag on mentally. You really can't move forward until all of that is settled. You start to doubt who you were as a wife who spent 30 years with someone. Of course there were tough times....show me a marriage that does not experience highs and lows.
But I always thought we would grow old together. Now when I see older couples shopping or out to dinner....I feel a small stab in my heart.
I am a worker.....whether it's a job or a relationship I will do everything I can to be successful and keep things running smoothly. Non confrontational.....a pleaser.....I will give in to my feelings at times because I don't want the other person to feel bad. Not always a good thing I know. I have often thought..... how would it feel to have someone care that way about me....meaning.... really be concerned about my happiness [in a relationship].
Anyway....blah blah blah. Me and a million other woman in America:)
So here are a few parting pictures and words....
This little muffin has been a Godsend to me. Dirty mouth and all:)
And exercise. Seriously it helps me feel good about myself.
I saw these words somewhere.....
And this is for everyone one of you who have commented....emailed....texted and called with words of support. There is kindness in the world and I have witnessed it this year.
Happy New Year to all of you.
Sherika
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You made it though Christmas,rough, but you made it.....phew!!
Your light will shine a little brighter next year...we will all help to make sure that happens!!
Sending comfort and love, friend!!
If you lived in Raleigh, we would totally be friends and I’d have your back and remind you daily that you are awesome. May 2020 bring good things to your life.
One day at a time your heart will heal. All the very best as you start the beginning of a new chapter of your life. I hope 2020 is your best year yet.
It is not always easy to put on a happy face, but you plowed through it.
When on door closes, another one opens. Happy New Year! My best.
Pat
It may not be the vision you had for your life, but I have a feeling the next decade will be your best yet. I am rooting for you!
Sending you all the best in 2020 and beyond! I so appreciate your blog...thank you for the work you put into it! I loved "Offspring"! "Rake" is another quirky, funny Australian...show I enjoyed, too.
Happy New Year!
Renee
Here’s to 2020 and new beginnings! You made it through Christmas. New beginnings are scary, but exciting. Better is to come!
I hope you are proud of yourself—you are a survivor and have many friends both near and far standing with you. May 2020 be a great year for you!
Hang in there Sherry, it is only natural to feel the way you do. If you weren’t feeling a little lost then there would be something amiss. I am glad to hear you have discovered ‘Offspring’. Asher Keddie is a much loved actor here. Her character ‘Nina Proudman’ inspired many fashion bloggers to create a weekly post just on what she wore. There was definitely a ‘Nina’ style worn by many women. You may find it interesting that Asher is married to a well known artist Vincent Fantauzzo. In Brisbane where I live, we have ‘The Fantauzzo’ Art Series Hotel where his art is displayed in the rooms and public spaces.
Happy New Year Sherry. Onward and upward.
I believe you have a whole community of people here who care and support you. You're a wonderful human being who deserves the best in life.
xo
Sherry - Bravely sharing your deep, personal pain is an act of courage. You are on the road to healing, and from there you will move onto peace and joy. I wish you all good things on your journey.
Ann
Ann is so right! Sharing your pain showed your courage. Without your sharing, we would not have known you needed your tribe surrounding you and praying for protection and healing.
As with everyone else, I wish you the best in 2020. Just realize what matters is who is with you now! You have a whole group of grateful followers aka friends who are in your corner.
We are women; hear us roar. We're on this journey with you all the way! What affects you, affect us and we won't let you down.
Nancy
You are living out my single biggest fear. I'm really sad that you have to experience this cruel abandonment. I honestly hate that men can do this to women...hoodwink them into sharing and loving and trusting with their whole heart and then shatter them, often without warning. May God fill all the gaping holes this has torn into the fiber of who you are with His peace and love in 2020 and restore the truth that you have infinite value and worth. Pamela
I just wanted to say that I am so impressed with how you have handled this all. You are much stronger than you think. I hope you have had to chance to talk to him in person for some closure. That was a totally shitty, wimpy move for him to do this like he did. I wish you nothing but happiness in the future!
Well, whether you felt it or not you sure had a full Christmas! Your social life is to die for...
Here's to 2020! the best is yet to come. xoxo from your league of followers
Here’s to a better year! I know you can’t just put it all behind you, but I think you’re doing a great job living your best life. Thanks for sharing your highs and lows with us and showing everyone how you’re doing with grace. I love seeing your beautiful work. Those Christmas stockings bring back memories of ones my mom made for us in the 70’s, except ours were cowboy boots made of denim (we lived on a ranch).
Tough times for sure, but as Coco Chanel says......You’re classy and fabulous....and that will always be true about you! Love that black bag and those combat boots! Here’s to continued style (in all aspects of your life) in 2020! Debbie
Hi Sherry,
We’ve never met but I feel like I know you. We’re the same age & I’ve followed your blog from practically the beginning. I have to say...
You are much stronger than you realize. I would have crawled into a hole & not come out. I’m so amazed that you put on a smile & socialized. I hope 2020 is kinder to you.
I ditto every and all comment above... YOU GO GURL!
Offspring is the best! My mom turned me on to it and I watched the whole thing in a just a few weeks. If you watch other Australian shows you will see a lot of overlap with the actors, but this group is the best. By this point you've also made it through New Years! You don't have to be happy and fun in front of everyone, all the time. What you're going through SUCKS!!! I'm glad to read you have such wonderful friends and family to help you through it. Don't stop posting. I love your style!
xoxo, Julie
I'm so glad you got out and socialized even though I know it wasn't always easy! You're a beautiful, talented and charming woman who has so much to give to someone who deserves you! Wishing you the best in 2020!!! Your blog always brightens my day!
Sherry,
As others have said, you are very brave and strong! Thank you for sharing your journey with us, because we truly do care. Those who have been through dark days know just how hard it is to put on a happy face and push through. But you made it through, so YAY for YOU! Praying that 2020 brings you healing and peace.
How pretty you look in pearls!! Sending a hug.
Happy New Year! I hope you find peace and comfort this year. Thank you for sharing honestly.
Wishing you a new beginning for this new decade. Your blog is such a joy to follow, you always make me laugh even when I know you are dealing with something very painful. We love you, Sherry! Hang in there, it will get better.
Often when something happens unexpected I recall the words my Grandmother instilled in me; "The only thing I can promise in life is change, it's how you react that makes you who you are. Remember, you only control yourself.", she was a strong, wise Southern Lady. Those words have helped to handle so many situations, that were not of my creation. The understanding that fault and bitterness will never help me to move on, the freedom of choosing to accept and be happy. I hope you may find a little wisdom in her words as well. Wishing you strength, hope, grace and acceptance -
So glad you made it through I was thinking of you and hoped you were doing well throughout the holidays. 2020 will be your year!
Ditto "GREY DOVE", these are wise words. Keep that inner strength Sherry, and remember that time does heal (or at least weaken
the hurt).
So glad you had a busy and fun holiday with your family and friends… Happy New Year!🎆 Bonnie G.
way to be real! life is messy, it tries to kick your ass. sometimes we let it, sometimes we fight back. but we breathe thru it all and savor the moments of real joy- and try not to exhale for fear it will be awhile before we feel "joy" again. but we can't stop time and on we go.
you my dear, you show up , you are real -- you don't hide and you make us all better for it. cheers to you
You are stronger than you realize and who knows, there may be someone whose reading your blog that needed to hear the words you are saying. Good things can come out of bad things, I strongly believe that!! You are an inspiration to all of us, keep it up and cheers to a new and better year!!
You are very brave to share your pain and journey...I'm rooting and praying for you.
It’s called RESILIENCE , what I’m reading and seeing here. May feel like you’re faking it, going through the motions...but you’re doing it for YOU, not for others benefit. When my husband died at 53 of cancer, I thought I could lay like a puddle on the floor (and many people do, and there’s no shame there, everyone is different) or I could try and find a bit of joy in each day. Every marriage has struggles, we all try and overcome differences sometimes peacefully and sometimes not. Such great pics and holiday experiences and honest reflections on empty spaces. You’re doing it though. Don’t look too far forward, deal with today. Sorry I’m rambling, but I care.
I love everything about this post.
Continue to pray for you every day
Truly all the best this year
XO
there is a quote I love, and try to consider, not always successfully, but here goes;
"I deserve better, I deserve to be loved, wildly and passionately, deeply. I deserve to be known and accepted, and appreciated.
That is not something you are capable of." by Samantha Matthews. Repeat.
Sherry, you are loved and admired, with many many friends and family whom care. The cowardice shown you stings massively now but you WILL emerge stronger and even better. power to you!
2020 is going to be great, I just know it. And the hot pickled okra is great in bloody mary's!
Happy New Year to you. Big Hug.
Monica
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