A TREAT TODAY COURTESY OF PAM SESSIONS




I gotta tell ya.....I feel sorry for people who don't blog....or have the kind of support you guys have given me through this incredibly hard time.

I am grateful for every uplifting comment and you may think they are just words but they are so meaningful to me.

Thank you
Thank you
Thank you......

You are in for a treat today....I have pictures of my friend Pam Sessions retreat and let me just say it's incredible!

I was there 2 years ago but really couldn't post many pictures because it was going to be photographed.  It was featured in Milieu magazine this year.

But....now I can go crazy here slinging pictures all over this post and be prepared to gasp....because that is what I did when I saw every inch of this space!

Starting with this incredible kitchen!





This scene below!














I told ya....
Things I love....the green cabinets, subway tile on all the walls, the graphic backsplash, the floors, the green chairs, the large dining table....maybe I should have just said....."things I don't like".....NOTHING!



Powder room.....

I just had a brilliant idea....I might save the rest of them because I realize that I don't have much to share the next few weeks:)  How evil of me.....she says with a deep laugh.



As a 68 year old woman who has lived a long and full life..... I realize now I have never met a more toxic individual and the fact I hung around [30 years ugh] just proves how good he really was....

Not looking back is hard.  

Anyway enough of him.....it's nearly Christmas....we have a vaccine so things are definitely looking up!  Almost time to start wearing lipstick again:)

Had a blast at the farm in Madison.  Decorated my first tree in forever and it was easier than I remember!  They have 2 dogs so we all went for a long walk and Cami had so much fun.....especially rolling in pig doo doo.  Yeah.....little bugger.


Sherika



24 comments

Anonymous said...

I'm so proud of you as I'm sure there will be others who feel the same way. That's being a strong woman who at this stage of life (I'm 3 weeks younger than you) has realized that she's a woman to be reckoned with. Bravo!

Unknown said...

I love green. And so happy you are where you need to be creating beauty everywhere.

Christina said...

I am so sorry for everything you had to deal with this past year. It must be devastating to realize after 30 years that your spouse is not who you thought he was. Truly heartbreaking. On another note, this kitchen is stunning!!! Looking forward to seeing more! And to wearing lipstick again!

Anonymous said...

That's our Sherry. We're all here for you girlfriend. You never fail to put a smile on my face. You're going to come out of this so much better and wiser than before. Take care and have a wonderful holiday season. Gotta find the joy where you can.
MaryK

Anonymous said...

I enjoy your blog and rarely leave comments anywhere. My opinion is you’re allowing the ex to take space in your thoughts. You’ve gotta get past that. Sooooo many have gone before you, for as long as you, with cheating, dishonest spouses. They’ve survived and now better for it. You’ll survive just fine. People matter...money and things can be replaced. Settle whatever remains in the dispute by cutting the connection. Close the book on the past, and get on with the new book. Write one big blog on all the things on how you’ve been wronged, let people sympathize, but enough becomes enough and go forward. You’ll be a bigger, better, happier person because of that. I’m speaking from experience. You’ve gotta let go. Get past feeling good about well meaning sympathizers. Sympathy keeps the door to the past open. Cheers to 2021.

celkalee said...

Wow, what great pictures. I am a bit confused with the powder room, I would always be trying to fuss with the back of my head! It has been a stinky year, for sure, but you have faced so much publically. Knowing a long time like this I also know that what you don't show and what you deal with on your own actually makes you who you are. Stronger? Who knows but it surely shapes your view of life and how you will proceed. Bravo, Merry Christmas.

Sarah said...

You trusted him to be who he represented himself to be. Good for you, to be a trusting person. We just can't always see in others what we don't have in our own hearts--especially true when dealing with the deceitful. I think you're fabulous! Go forth and kick ass!

Anonymous said...

Psychopaths are more common that you would guess. They specialize in manipulation and projecting themselves as whatever they think you want them to be. They do not have a conscience like you and I do. From what little you have shared, he sounds like a psychopath. It's awful to look back and wonder how the hell you didn't see it - but he's probably been this way his entire life (it's a brain thing) and so he is very good at it. So sorry. Look back as much as you want, because you need to process this. Been there done that, but it was only 10 years of my life, not 30.

P.S. That giant piece of artwork in a kitchen. What the actual heck? Amazing. Thanks for sharing!

Marilynn said...

Dude is a Narc. You are a goddess.

cindy hattersley design said...

This is positively spectacular. It makes me want to build a house...don't tell my husband. You are absolutely right Sherry about blogging and the caring people you meet that become lifelong friends. You are one of those people. Who was the first person to wish me happy birthday yesterday? You made my day, and I am looking forward to getting together more in the future when this damn virus is gone. You are coming out here if I have to come and drag you!

Chris said...

I love how the bathroom has that painting instead of a mirror. My Mom got divorced at 62-she did not have a career like you and really thought her life was over (she lived to be 90) It took her a long time to stop hating and just be indifferent to him...I think that was a turning point. Anyway enjoy your Christmas-count your blessings. We are behind you-support you and enjoy you blog !

AnneHH said...

What a kitchen and powder room!!!!!!!! YES!!! Can't wait to see more of this beauty!! Every detail has been fabulous so far. Favorites: the velvet kitchen chairs, the rustic ceiling, the hand made subway tiles, the gorgeous portrait in the powder room!!!!!! Ahhh! Such a tonic to a troubled world!! Laughed out loud about your lipstick comment. So true. Sending you lots of love and support. Take whatever time you need to feel better and know that we are here for you. xo

Hannah said...

oh my GOSH! You were right! Stunning! I'm so sorry for all that you have been through with your ex...I had one of those...and they never change!! Wishing you a VERY Merry Christmas...and maybe a new man to go along with it! ;) Keep blogging. You make me laugh and everything you post is just beautiful! AND...if you sell anything else on Marketplace...let me know! I'm in Marietta! :)

Lynn said...

Good riddance to your ex! I know it’s hard right now but one day you will be so happy, happier than you ever were with him. You are an amazing, trusting, funny woman and I predict you will find love again. Keep on being who you are and life will be rosy before you know it! I absolutely love your blog!!!

debra @ 5th and state said...

and I continue to count my blessings having met you via your blog. knew we could be friends and look forward to so many more times together. cannot wait to talk face to face......maybe January, I'll be coming to atlanta! need to blow out of here!!

The healthy route is to talk about your struggles and they do not magically disappear because months have passed. Keep sharing, we are beside you

Pam Sessions...gobsmacked! what a talent and cannot wait to see more. her cabinets look like a Farrow & Ball green I used on my walls, cannot recall the name as I write.

Debra

Myla said...

The fact that the highly toxic human being left you, is the most amazing gift he could have given you. Not without emotional pain, but enabling freedom for the rest of your life. I'm not discounting how extremely difficult and damaging being left is, but highlighting how damning being tethered to him for the rest of your life would have been. You are loved by so many, not to mention admired and respected. Thank you for being you and sharing your talents and life so freely with us.

Shannon Kirby said...

You never cease to amaze me Sherry with your sharing of the good times, the bad and the truly awful. It comes to mind the old saying “ What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”. You are the epitome of that.

The Sessions work is stunning. Her use of color and the overall space is so well done. But have to ask if a mirror is on a side wall by the sink? That painting is brilliant 😍

Sherry, you are an Amazon warrior princess! You will get through all the heartache.

Xxoo,
Shannon

Joan said...

Love your blog and writing style. I had one of those toxic relationships but left him after
8 years and went to graduate school with the money I was entitled to after the marriage. Of
course, didn't get any settlement from the mountain cabin property because I had no proof
that my income also went to the payments on that.

Don't know the author, but "Living well is the best revenge". And I've gone on to live well, have a career, and a 24 year marriage to a good guy. I know how difficult it is, you will continue to have ups and downs, just stay with the sorrow and feelings as you are and things will get better. You're a very talented, strong woman.

Anonymous said...

Sherry, just want to know how much I enjoy your blog! You are so talented and I love following your blog! Can’t get over you’re 68; I always thought you were 48ish! And don’t worry about that scumbag, there are much better greater things in your future! Karma will get him!

Anonymous said...

Sherry, you are a real talent. We, too, live in metro Atlanta, and I’ve often thought of calling for your advice! From experience, I echo what several folks have said above. Do whatever it takes to look forward into 2021 at all the wonderful things that are ahead for you. Maybe it isn’t the future that you had been planning. But in our house we ask the following question: How do you make God laugh? The answer? Make plans!

Anonymous said...

Merry Christmas Sherry. Just wanted to say I greatly admire how you’ve powered through the past couple of years. I hope 2021 brings better times! Keep entertaining us with your blogposts please. All the best to you and Cami, xxxCarol

Anonymous said...

Spent 20 years with a narcissist and was devastated when he left. It took time and you aren’t there yet but now so glad he is out of my life. You will get there in time I promise.

Anonymous said...

Ww are too old to look back now Shay. Only forward. We have 20 more Summers (my new mantra) if we’re lucky.! Don’t you waste one more minute on it. You create your joy, and now your free to do just that. Burden be gone. You will continue to grow and pros-we and love
Xoxo. JK

Shelly said...

Thank you, thank you, thank you! For all you do, for making me ooh and awe and for making me laugh! Beautiful home and the Green, gah! Happy holidays!

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