As promised I have some more Boulder before and afters to share.....let's get right to it!
When you walk in from the garage you go through that incredible laundry room and then into this den. It's very spacious with plenty of light!
Here is the before [real estate pic] #browncity
It received new windows and that bulkhead was removed for a cleaner look....that is the thing about Greg....he and I both share the goal to open it up!
This is the listing pic....which shows how spacious this room is....The room is painted my fav. Benjamin Moore White Dove.
Most of this staging furniture we used on the last project....but with a little rearranging it always seems to take on a new life and look fresh again.
Before
After
This is the only dark wall....
But I felt it would ground this space and give it some warmth.
Listing picture.
This was the original mantel which was sanded down and re-stained....
I supplemented a few of the vases with a few more from West Elm.....cause a grouping of #blackandwhitevases just works right?
Custom iron brackets. After all this IS Boulder....iron is a must:)
If you were watching my stories... I searched everywhere for a black coffee table....until we went to Ikea and snagged this one.
Trying to find stuff out there was brutal as college had just started and dorm rooms were being decorated. I had never seen a Target SO empty!
You've seen this shelving piece in at least 3 projects :)
Before
I staged it as a game area.....
Old Pier One table with West Elm chairs.
Well that about wraps it up.....I still have upstairs to share so stay tuned my friends.
In other news.....
I'm not sure how to begin. I am shaking as I write these words.....
I have been eluding for a few post now that things might not be so hunky dory for me. I guess when you have a blog...the whole point is transparency....I mean if you aren't authentic people can sniff that out right?
I have always had a tendency to overshare....all my life. Vulnerability came easy to me....tears when I'm sad....laughter when I'm happy.....this is going to be a rough one to spill on these pages.
Wednesday night [September 4th] I came home from Boulder to find out that my husband had left me. He moved out while I was gone....no note or any communication. To say I was/am devastated is an understatement.
One week later I was served [at the front door] divorce papers. Your first question might be "did you see this coming"....I did not. We just celebrated our 26th anniversary on July 27 with dinner out. Hand holding and "I love you" followed.
So.... I am trying to pick up the pieces of my life right now....not exactly my plan at 67 years old. I'm struggling.....but oh so blessed with my 2 sisters who live close by. They have not left my side.
And.....so many friends who have hugged..... loved on me and propped me up [including my Boulder family]. All I can think of is have I been that kind of friend? I hope so because the kindness has been almost overwhelming...the emails and phone calls I have received... with words of support....have been humbling.
Like I said before I am not the first person to go through this. Having lost both my parents at 63 and 73 which was in itself very hard.... I know that this is a "one day at a time" gig.
Because as trite as it sounds....time is the true healer.
Please hang in there with me as this blog is an important part of my life so I am making every effort to hang on to it.
Sherika
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Sherry, I am so so sorry. How painful. I’m a long time reader and I love your style and personality! Hang in there...
You are so talented and l love reading your blog!
Your wonderful sense of humor has lifted my spirits more than you know! I am keeping you
In my thoughts and my prayers! Deborah
I'm so sorry for this blindsided event in your life. But you're right.....one day at a time, one step in front of the other and you WILL survive. Maybe even forgive one day, and come out the other end stronger for the experience. I was there a few years ago and it's hard, very hard but you're lucky you have such wonderful support. A lot of friends have your back! I will continue to think and pray for strength for you. In the meantime, keep busy. Work is a wonderful diversion from trauma!
Well Sherry....seems to me it speaks about his character given the way he left. You will find your way!!!! A step at a time...a day time. Now hear me....joy has not left your life! It is just hiding right now until you are ready to feel it again. Bless your sisters. Love,positive thoughts, and prayers are coming from so many here. Pip xxxooo
So very sorry to read this. Sending you strength, love and light.
Very sorry to read this but you are a strong lady, sending you love and peace!
There is humanity in sharing both sorrows and joy and that's what helps in creating your wonderful community (well, that and you are incredibly talented!) You are so right - one day and even one step at a time.
oh, this is terrible! WHO DOES THAT. I'm so sorry. I hope that you get some answers and find some solace with your wonderful support system.
I'm so sorry! What a horrible thing to do to someone! 6 years ago I found out that my husband had been cheating on me and it was the most painful thing I have ever experienced. I don't have any sisters but my girlfriends literally held me up as I cried and shook and broke down. I think men come and go but your blood sisters and non-blood sisters are there forever. Hold your head up high and tell your story if it helps. You will come out of this just fine but the thing that sucks is that you have to go through it first. Just take it day by day and be kind to yourself. Wishing you much strength in the days ahead.
You do what you need to do to come out on the other side of this and we (your faithful blog readers) will be here for you and reading whatever and whenever you blog!! Stay strong!!
So very sorry I am a long time follower and really have not had this but have had a life altering event and you really just have to keep going, You are a very accomplished woman and life will put the boots to you sometimes, but the human spirit is very strong so keep keepin on! sincerely sorry, Karen
Sherry - sending prayers for comfort, understanding, peace of spirit and strength to pick yourself up and move forward each and every morning. I have no idea what you must be going through but wanted to let you know that I'm sending my little ray of light up in to the heavens for you - for some solace and just good old strength to try and work through this devastating event. My thoughts are with you and my heart aches with yours. I'm so sorry for your pain. - Heidi
Sherry...my heart is broken for you. I am so, so very sorry. You will be in my prayers for His strength that passes all understanding. Take the time you need to heal, your friends and bloggy-land friends will be here for you always. Blessings to you sweet one.
Your Boulder staging is fab..as always.
Sherry, sending so much love your way. You've made all of us laugh and smile, but it's ok to make us sad for you too. There isn't much anyone can say ... it's a sh*tty thing that's happened to you. I feel for you and cannot imagine how hard this is. Please know that there's a whole lot of people rooting for you to be ok. We'll all wait patiently for you to get your footing, you take care of you!
Sherry I am so sorry to hear this. Can't imagine what you are going through. Don't have the right words because really there are not any right words. Glad your friends and family are nearby for support and your internet family is sending love as well. Karyn
We are here and will follow you through this journey however you want to share it. I'm sorry it happened to you, but as another commenter said, this speaks volumes about him. You've been thrown off the highest high dive and plunged into the deepest depths, but you will swim up and out!
I have read every single blog post you be written over the past several years but have never commented before. Just wanted to say that I've always admired you for your perspective, spunk, class and humor. I am so sorry that you are going through this. Know that your fans, whether they tend to reach out or not, are sending you warm thoughts of support. And your blog is also an important part of our lives. So thank you.
Such a cowardly act! Keep looking ahead... every day will be a little easier. I hope it gives you some comfort knowing that you have an army of people in your corner sending love.
Oh Dear Sherry, we truly love and pray that good things will come your way. You are someone to be admired and I hope and pray that God grants you continued strength along with your family to get thru this. Be brave my dear and just paste that beautiful smile on your face and keep going!
Sherry, I am overwhelmed in sadness for you, and the pain you are going through now. You are the most talented and hard working person out there. Keeping busy will be your best therapy, once you regain your focus. I love your style, personality, and look so forward to your blogs.
Thank you for sharing the good and bad. Sending love and hugs!
Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. You are my go-to blog because you are so real. I will pray for strength so you can get through this one day at a time.
So much love to you; I'm so sorry!! I'll be here as a loyal reader no matter what; this room is gorgeous and I would LOVE to have it in my house. It must be so hard to continue to post in the middle of this, but I hope it's a bit healing as well to connect with your readers. I haven't been a commenter (at all; it's a failing) but you have so much support from us all. <3
I’ve read for years but never commented. Sherry- you are a bright light...your humor, class, and determination are so special. Divorce sucks. Hang in there and keep spreading light and love. You will make it out of this journey stronger, smarter, and ready to face a happy life ahead.
Thanks you for sharing something so real. We need more real people in the media today. And it is so easy to blame yourself in these situations but this is not about you. You are bacon Sherry. Bacon is loved. Bacon is strong. Sherrubacon!
Thank goodness for your sisters! Take heart in all the support you receive - believe what they say.
Oh Sherry, our hearts are heavy for you!! Know we send hugs to give you strength and love. This is a hard journey, but we're here with you every step of the way. Sending love friend. xoxo
Oh Sherry, I'm so sorry for what you are going through. Despite not knowing you in person, I see in every post what an amazing and talented person you are! May God fill you with abundant blessings throughout this new chapter of life.
From all I see on your blog, you are a beautiful, talented, and kind woman. Divorce is like death especially when it is unexpected and hits you like a brick. Prayers for you. And may you find the next phase more wonderful than ever.
Count me as another long-time reader who has never commented before. I love your blog so much -- it's so infused with your warmth and humor and (of course!) great style. Thanks for posting the real deal -- the good, the bad, the ugly (design-wise and emotion-wise). I hope you get strength from knowing how many of us anonymous readers are cheering you on.
I think you are amazing. I always look forward to your blog posts because you never fail to bring a smile to my face. Just think of the impact you are having every day with your talent! Your sense of humor, Sherry, is such a gift. Lean on that to bring joy back into your life. Having those wonderful sister doesn't hurt either. Godspeed and remember all the love and support for you out here in blogland.
I am another first time commenter. What everyone else said! Yours is the first blog I check in the morning to see if there is new content because you always always help me start my day with humor and a feeling of kinship. Thanks for sharing with us strangers and we’ll all be here rooting for you.
Elizabeth
Well, I thought he'd come to his senses. Thank you for sharing this beyond difficult life event. Holding space for you. We love you.
Even thought we've never met I feel as if I know you, Sherry. I know that you are kind. I know you are talented. I know you're a great dresser. I know that you are hilarious. I know you've got spunk and I know you'll make it! Your cheering section will be here for you and cheering you on all the way to being able to smile and laugh again!
First time commentor. I enjoy your spirit and humor you have always displayed through your signautures almost as much as I do your A-1 design work that you have so generously shared.
You were dealt a real low blow, but just keep on standing strong. You can do it. The support of your sisters seems limitless. Lean on them as much as you need to.
xoxo
You are an elegant, talented, funny woman (to name just a few qualities). Don’t forget that as you move through this difficult time. And most importantly, know that you are not alone. I wish you all the best, Sherstrongerthanyouyhink.
Oh, what a dick! Thanks for your courage to share this heartbreak with your readers; it can’t have been easy. I’m adding my good wishes and virtual hugs to all the others who’ve expressed their support for you. Stay strong as you pick up the pieces of your life and mend yourself with the help of your sisters and all who love and admire you.
You are a total badass! Thank you for sharing with us - your spirit always shines through your writing and I admire you. Sending strength to you xoxo.
What a chicken shit, he doesn't deserve you! I have been reading your blog for years and look forward to your honesty in writing, to the beautiful pictures of the spaces you design. Take some time to heal yourself and then get out there and kick ass like you have been!
His lack of character is astounding. Your talent and humor will help get you through this tough time. Your Boulder flip is another good one. It's no wonder the flips go under contract so quickly. They are so lucky to have you.
I am so, so sorry. I tried to leave a comment more than a week ago to tell you I was praying for you but it bounced back. I am still praying for you. I hate that he left you while you were out of town with no hint that it was going to happen. I have been married 20 years & I can just imagine the devastation you are feeling. I am so glad your sisters, other family members and friends have been such a source of support for you during this time.
I feel like I know you after so many years of reading your blog. I almost fell off my chair when I read your news. My first thought is I would like to punch him out for doing this to you. It’s kind of my second and third thought too. I have to agree with the others..his lack of character is astounding. Your true character speaks for itself. Kind, funny, and caring. Please hang in there.
I am so sorry you're going through this. You're better off, it may be awhile before you know it. Sending you strength and courage.
Reading your blog entry today made me cry. I am sorry that you are going through this right now. I have been following you on insta and your blog for years and always look forward to the Boulder flip pics. Hold your head up high and know that it's not you but HIM that is to be blamed for this.
I am so sorry! Thank you for sharing and feeling comfortable enough with your blog gang to let us in on what is going on in your life. The fact that you get up and keep working and writing is amazing. You are an inspiration in so many ways to so many, your incredible personality shines through in your writing, I love that your sisters are there with you, and I'm tearing up thinking about this because no one deserves this, but especially not you. xoxo Jenny
Here supporting you and thanking you for all the humor you’ve shared. So wish we could meet in real life! Not bashing “him”, but as has been said, this treatment speaks to his real character or lack thereof. One word of advice I haven’t seen - get a great lawyer!
Sherry so very sorry to read this today .Your blog and instagram stories have been an excellent source for us that love decorating, fabrics, painting and just sprucing up our homes. Your ideas truly amazing, you should be so proud of yourself. I am adding you to my prayer list that you will be surrounded by God’s LOVE and PEACE and that you will find JOY in each day. Put your trust in only him and he will see you through this journey.
You and Cami will soar once again trust me...please tell me you have that precious doggy!!!
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It is shocking and heartbreaking for a marriage to end in such a way. Adding my good wishes for healing and a bright future for you.
I'm so sorry to hear this news. It sounds like you have a good support system with your sisters to get you through this. With Cami by your side, you can and will get through this. I love reading your blog and looking at the pictures. We are a blog community that supports you and sends you peace and love.
Longtime reader and admirer, never commented, but this strikes close to home. Three years ago, right before my 30th wedding anniversary, I discovered my husband was not who he was pretending to be. It was devastating -- I never saw it coming -- and it nearly destroyed me. But here I am three years later, with a new life in a new place, and I am on the edge of happy again. Break down when you need to -- stay strong when you have to -- lean on your sisters -- and get a great lawyer. You are clearly a woman of great character and you will persevere.
Sherry,
You are so talented and I love reading your blog. Thank you for sharing both the good and sad parts of your life. I am very, very sorry you are dealing with this difficult situation. It sounds bewildering, tragic, and upsetting. But as other commenters have written, you will be ok—eventually—and you will rise up stronger and better. No one wants to go thru such a crisis but I am glad you have supportive family and friends who are lifting you up and helping you to heal. Sending big hugs your way!
I’m so sorry to hear this as I love following your blog & I hate you’re going this personal tragedy. You are a beautiful woman, extremely talented designer and extremely funny! Thank you for sharing as I’m sure it was most difficult to post. We are all here for you.
Sherry, there are great posts here so I am just going to add that I am so sorry you have been hurt like this and to let you know I care. I am glad you blogged about it. It is like having a large, open journal. Journaling is highly recommended to help with healing. Let friends help. They want to, really, truly.
The same thing happened to me right after celebrating a big anniversary and youngest child had just left for college. It was a while ago and I can now say it was for the best. It took alot of questioning and ping-pong thinking. My lawyer actually helped me realize that my ex wasn't the same person I married. He had seen so many cases of mid-life crises in men. He warned me to watch out for shady things during the divorce. I didn't believe him but he was right. This sounds calleous- please retain a good experienced lawyer.
Please keep blogging about it as you feel like it. We are all pulling for you.
This is truly a What the F*ck moment. Who does that??? I won't say anything derogatory about him in case you still love him but I would like you to know that I too have enjoyed your blog for years and can see you are a woman of character. And yes, get a good lawyer. In fact, get an asshole of a lawyer so that he can do the dirty work for you. Please keep us posted on how you are and remember that the world is your oyster!
Dear Sherry, I am so sorry to hear that you are going through such a difficult time. I will pray for you. The fact that you can keep posting is admirable. I find myself lately looking to see that you have posted, not for the pictures, but to make sure you are doing o.k. I am glad you have your health, and the support of your family and friends. In the end that is all that matters.
Dear Sherry, So sorry that you have to go through this. The very same thing happened to my mother during my first year away at university. She got through it with our support and a good lawyer. You will too! Such a cowardly move on his part - Jerk!
Oh dear! This is not good. Literally,I'm crying in my coffee here. This does not make any sense. Is he leaving you for another man? Cuz who in their right mind would leave you? You are beautiful and kind and a snappy monochromatic dresser. You have a great career and a rock hard body!And are funny as hell! Something ain't right. Maybe he has a brain tumor and it is causing him not to think clearly, not that I wish ill on him. I was married to a bad boy attorney, you name it, he did it. Including my best friend in our bed! I noticed the linens on my meticulously layered Ralph Lauren bed were askew. This was back in the days when we mixed and did not match the sheets, gingham, floral, chambray, eyelet,etc. Lets just say there was ticking stripe where their should of only been floral. Don't mean to make light of your plight but as a woman and designer the only man who endures the test of time is and worth sticking with is RALPH LAUREN. Fuck the rest of them. I'm praying for you. God will help heal your broken heart. Big Hug. Monica
Sherry,
I am so sorry you’ve had to go through this. I can’t imagine how someone could literally walk out without at least talking. I’m glad you have your sisters to stay by your side. And I can’t believe you’re 67! I thought you were at least 10 years younger. Sending you love,
Susie
Sherry,
So sorry to hear of the pain you're going through. I'll keep you in my heart and prayers.
Just know that you're supported far more than you'll ever realize by people
you don't know but love you, your style, your class, your humor, and your heart.
Nancy
Sending hugs and prayers for healing!
My heart aches for you. Sending you lots of good vibes, love and light!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
What the actual HELL?? I cannot believe he made such a dick move. Sherry as you can tell from the comments, we all love you and value your talents as a designer and your personality that entertains and educates. I hate that you are hurting right now. Sending you all the positive vibes I can.
So sorry this is happening to you (goes without saying) but I wish I could give you a hug right now. Use your sisters, your friends, and yes all of us, for support! Lament, complain, cry, scream,-whatever it takes. I think I can speak for others here: we have you!
One thing is true for sure, and that truth is that the sun will come out!🙏♥️
it hurts me to know you are going thru such a rough time.. long time follower of your blog and have even followed you around a home goods to see what goes in your cart.. lol. (not a creepy stalker just happened to see you once) somehow i feel you will look back on this and say "wow have i grown"! every blow comes with that opportunity to reflect , find solace and grow. Don't deny yourself this opportunity to seek a personal growth. You are a very talented, strong, beautiful woman with much to offer the world and personally your writing style cracks me up and lifts me up. Don't look back and don't look forward -- stay present and you will get thru this! And yes "Lawyer Up"-- there are some awesome women divorce attorneys in Atlanta... hugs!
Sherry, my heart hurts for you. I hope as you go through this time in your life and process your grief that you remain true to yourself, full of life, love and friendship. Lean on those close to you and know that your friends from the "inter webs" are thinking of you and cheering you on. Best, Cathy
Sherry, I’m so sorry. What a horrible way to treat a spouse. I hope there is some comfort in reading the comments from those of us who admire you for your wit, your talent, your energy, your style and yourself. I echo the advice above to be sure that you are well represented in any legal procedures.
There is so much heartache in life. Losing a 20+ year marriage is disruptive, at times uncertain, and unimaginably painful. I speak from experience. And because of that, I can tell you that it is indeed possible to come out on the other side. There was many a day in which I wondered if I would ever arrive there, but I did, and you will too, Sherry. I know everyone is saying get a mean lawyer, take his underwear, etc., but I will say get competent and reliable representation, know your rights, and don't back down during the process just because you want it to be over. I am proud of myself for handling that aspect in an adult way. I will not criticize your husband, because I feel far sorrier for him than I do you - he's lost an incredible partner. You will forge through and I promise, you will then be a better person for it. Take the high road, take the time to reflect and heal, and take good care. All of us will be with you in spirit during this journey.
Sherry, with a huge lump in my throat and teary eyes I just want to say that I feel your pain and sympathize...
You are such a joyful happy and very funny woman with a huge following of people who love you.
Such a shock, I can only imagine, so good you have your sisters by your side.
You will get through this, it's darn hard and painful but you are Sherry and you will get through it and find
happiness and love again.
Well HE must be a huge coward. I love your blog - it makes me smile. Sending you loads of thoughts and prayers as you digest this setback and as you learn to live a new kind of life. I have two sisters as well, and that is such a blessing in this life. Take care of yourself first and blog when you feel like it - no pressure!
Wow. I am speechless. Whenever I read or hear of these excuriatingly painful stories, I stand in awe of the depth of that person's soul. Sherry, your soul is taking on huge life changing lessons. You are one Powerful Woman! I bow to you. Sending love.
Sherry, This is absolutely about his character, his cowardice! Your character has allowed you to "make" friends the world over! All of us are collectively "hugging" you! We know you will go through ALL the feelings. Your grace and humor will carry you.
Sherry, when I read your first post saying you were going through a crisis, I was thankful that you had your sisters by your side!! I ALWAYS look forward to reading your blog....your humor is infectious and you always give me a giggle. Your talent, kindness and spirit shines through in everything you do!!! Remember, you have grit and you will be fine eventually!! If you need to scream...SCREAM as loud as you can!! Cry and Sob as much as you need!! Throw a tantrum if it will make you feel better!! But know in the end, he is the LOSER in this and one day he will realize he F KED up big time!! PLEASE get the best, meanest, most experienced, conniving, smartest, BAD ASS lawyer on the planet!! Please know we are all out here cheering you on as you close this difficult chapter of your life!!! You WILL come through this with flying colors because you are you!! Sending you love, hugs and support.
Well fuck, Sherry. I am so sorry. What a cowardly dick he must be. I don't have any wise words, just good thoughts, internet hugs and sending you all the love. You are awesome. xoxo
I know that sharing this with us is difficult but I am glad you did so that you can receive the kindness and support you need.
I know you will face this with courage, strength and (above all) humor.
The other comments were so accurate there is nothing new to say, but just wanted to add that you are wonderful and we are all thinking of you and praying for you. So many, many people are your friends through your blog, a testament to your humor and authenticity. Plus you are an outstanding decorator and I love everything you do, you have so much creativity and talent!
So saddened to hear of this devastating blow, Sherry.
I’m praying for you and the whole situation.
I admit it is hard to not criticize, judge and/or slander the ‘one’ who has hurt you, BUT, he also needs prayers for his brokenness.
Remember you’re not alone in this, even if it seems that way. God will make a way. And your blogger friends love you.
Another first time commentor .... Life just sucks sometimes, doesn't it? Like others have said, we can all tell from your blog that you are a smart, sassy and STRONG women! All skills that you will need now. Never doubt that you have them, even on those days when it feels like you are completely tapped out. I know, I've been there too. I'm always seeing you at our local Homegoods and "fangirl" you from afar. Next time I'm going to come up and give you a big ol" hug. Lots of folks out there wishing you the best. Me included!! Reesa
Bless you. I could tell almost instantly when you first mentioned something. How? Because I've walked in your shoes. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I will tell you this....there is life after. Yes, it takes time and help to process and move past such unbelievable betrayal, but there is light at the end of the tunnel. Please know you are loved and supported by many.
After being blindsided 20 years ago, I've had a terrible struggle with "forgiveness." I finally realized my essential problem was not forgiving him as much as it was forgiving myself. I was extremely angry at myself and embarrassed for being "blind", naive, trusting, loyal, faithful, supportive, STUPID, ... I took me way too long to figure this out and I was left with serious trust issues. I didn't trust others or myself. Consider getting help from a professional so that you can learn to see clearly. Friends and family are invaluable but a professional can give you perspective and strength. *Note - get it in CASH. You have no idea how complicated it can get!
I was afraid this might be what was going on when I read your earlier posts - I guess because I've been there myself. My friends got me through this and your family/friends are there for you. You are such a fantastic woman and hope you know that there will be good days ahead even though that may seem impossible right now. Prayers for you.
Dearest,
Not to sound harsh but, this says more about the "other's" character, not yours.
You will continue to be your friendly,giving self and allow the many good fortunes in your
future to come to one so deserving.
In the mean time please know that so many are caring and "loving you Up" afar.
Best wishes,
Peg
I will never forget my Mother-in-Law telling me, "Bah, in 6-months you'll wonder what you ever saw in him." That was a shocker for sure.
Allow yourself to be angry, to grieve, to question, to examine yourself.
Then build again..and never forget what you can bring to a new relationship when you are ready. Steady on lady...you've got this!
I'm so sorry to hear about what you are going through. I just want to pile on the good wishes and send MORE love your way. Take care, Debbie
My heart sank as I read your words. This is no solace but the way this was done speaks VOLUMES about the man’s character! And that should go on a cons list that you write for your own reference to pull out for review to help you over bad periods. I pray for you during these dark days and am so glad you have supportive friends and family around you.
I've followed you and admired you and been inspired by you...now I want to encourage you! You are such a strong and capable woman- you got this. It sucks and it's unfair- I want you to know that I am sending you a huge virtual hug- because you are special and you deserve all of the support and LOVE in the world!
First time commentor and I reiterate all above who say we always love to hear from you. I'm sorry for this right now for you. Sending prayers that you find peace and strength during this time.
Please know that, as a reader, I do feel you are a friend and I am as devastated for you as I would be if we lived in the same town! I wish I were there to bring you a cup of tea (or glass of sweet tea) when you need a moment to breathe and cry and then come up for air, renewed. Your sisters are indeed a blessing! Praying for strength and perseverance to get you through this tough time!
I am so very sorry. Marriage/life is not for the faint at heart. I have followed your blog for many years without ever commenting and your amazing sense of humor and incredible style are a wonderful moment of retreat. I hope that we as your readers can give you a moment of relief as you have done for us over the years. First, let me say - that just stinks and is so unfair! Then let me say that you can walk through this into being a stronger more whole person. I hope you find an amazing counselor and go regularly. My husband and I are sometimes counselors at an emergency marriage seminar because we have been through hell and back. It is still tough every day and we are only at 23 years. Who knows what the future holds, but marriage is complicated. Take it moment by moment and know that this is NOT your fault. Praying for you to have peace and rest.
You are so open and honest that I feel I know you, that you are my friend. I read the end of your post in tears for my friend. My second thought was for Cami. Wasn't he taking care of Cami while you were gone? Please tell me that he didn't take her, or worse, leave her alone. Praying for you.
That BASTARD, such a cowardly move!! I’m sending lots and lots of hugs!! You will survive this and come out a better, happier person, trust me. I adore you, as do all of your other blogger fans. We are all sending best wishes, prayers and hugs. Thank god you have Cami, she will help to get you through this.
WOW...life is crazy sometimes. I'm sure you feel like you've been kicked in the gut -- ouch. But I have no doubt that someone with your amazing energy and outlook on life will spring back quickly. I LOVE your sense of humor and through the years your blog has brought me so much joy and great information. If you aren't familiar with Joel Osteen, his messages are always filled with hope regarding every season of life. You can listen to him on Sirius Radio. I am totally rooting for you girl. Sending gobs of love your way.
Oh shit.
I was worried from your earlier posts that you had a dire illness or that one of your loved ones was very sick, and praying that there would be a speedy recovery. So at least glad to know that isn’t the case, although I realize this is still very ugly and heartbreaking. Very sorry you are dealing with this and glad you have your sistas to support you. From reading your blog over the years I see the kind, funny, fashionable and very talented spirit that is you! I wish you all the very best getting through this and back to into the groove of all the fun and light that is Sherry/Sherika. ❤️
Pat V.
Sherry, I am so very sorry you have to go through this. But as others have said: We know you are a strong, talented, resourceful, wonderful person with a huge heart. Thank you for your bravery in sharing your pain with us. The world is so full of posers and Fakebook posts that helps no one. Your honesty during your darkest days will somehow help us all be more real and connected to humanity. We are praying for you because this community loves you. Sending you love and light and prayers.
No words can remove or improve your pain, please know I’m sending up prayers for you to have peace and strength. 🙏🏻
I’m so sorry Sherry. I hope you can feel all the love and support your followers have for you and that it gives you strength to get through this heartbreaking time. Your have a huge heart, wonderful spirit and hilarious sense of humor and in your own time, you’ll be fine! Sending you a big hug and lots of prayers.
Oh my god, I'm so shocked and so sorry. My words look so lightweight on the screen but thank you for sharing this horrible part of your life with us. Know that I am thinking of you as you move through this really horrendous experience. You will come out on the other side, even though it probably doesn't feel like it in any way right now. Thank goodness for your sisters. Your loyal readers will be pulling for you. xo
And PS: Really..screw him for his cowardly method after 26 years.
It's so upsetting for what you're going thru. It was such a cowardly act and disgusting how he just left you after 26 years without speaking to you. My heart breaks for you and I'm hoping that you'll find the strength and courage to move forward.
What a cowardly act on his part. It is truly appalling. I am so very sorry that you are going through this difficult situation. But know you are a strong, fabulous, witty, and gorgeous woman and you will get through this! I’m glad you have your sweet sisters and friends to lean on. 💗
Amen—or awomen—to all above. From my personal experience I have to agree that what doesn't kill us makes us stronger. I also second the advice to hire the most competent lawyer who will fight for you. And don't forget to get well-versed on your social security benefits after divorce. I will also put something out there that perhaps has not been mentioned and that is are you sure this marriage is lost? The abrupt leaving, the manner of the serving of the divorce papers does speak of a deep anger on his part. Would joint therapy be useful? Do you still love him? Do you want to do the hard work it might take to resolve the deep issues that led to now? Your career has taken off and he is now retired. Has there been more me time for you and less we time from his perspective? Have you two actually spoken to each other since he left? I don't want to offend you with my comments, but you two have invested many years together. Maybe the pain is worth what could be a gain, or at least an ebbing of the endless questions why? I will turn 70 years next year. I have been married for 44. I know what a long-term marriage looks like and lives like and I know it isn't always easy. I support whatever your choice. I am glad you have support of people who love you and people you trust.
ps Do know that if my comments are totally in appropriate to your situation, I would not be adverse to your throwing one of your kettle balls at him in a strategic location! Hugs your way.
So, so sorry that you are having to go through this terrible experience. I can't imagine how hard this is for you. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you move forward toward a better future. Take care of yourself.
XOXO
I am so sad to hear what has been forced upon you - so wrong and so unfair.... You are in my prayers . An old cliche I know, but time is a healer. Just wake up every day and put one step after another and look forward. Your readers and women in your life will hold you up ! Much love, comfort and prayers to you. xo
I rarely leave comments on the blogs I follow, but I felt compelled to write something today. I look forward to reading your blog entries every week. I appreciate your design sense and share your love of black and white. The cowardly way your husband left you says more about his character than you. I know that anything I say won't heal your pain but know that you make a positive difference in many people's lives!
Sherry, Like so many others here, I do feel so connected to you and have been ecstatic to watch your career hit such highs recently. You are so talented and funny and what you do here has given me SO MUCH PLEASURE over so long. Thank you for that. I am heartbroken for you to ever have a challenge to face since you have only enhanced my life so I want to return that karma to you tenfold and offer profound words that will heal you. Here they are: You are so loved by this group. And, we lift you up and carry you across the abyss. As you grieve what was, please go to a quiet place and imagine yourself marinating in a stew of our love, respect, admiration and affection. xo
Sherry, I too rarely if ever comment on blogs, but your blog has been such a source of joy to me for so many years, and I hate to hear about your sadness. With every entry you write it's clear how genuine, caring, and supportive you are to those around you, and you deserve all of that back ten-fold. You are such a talented and accomplished woman, and I'm glad to hear that you are surrounding by other wonderful women lifting you up right now! We are all rooting for you!
Oh Sherry, I am so sorry. My heart breaks for you. I love your decorating (obviously) & your sense of humor. I will keep you in my prayers. I’m so glad you have your sisters close by & your people. I’m sorry but who needs someone without a backbone!!!
I’m really sorry you are going through the same hell as I have. My husband, a commercial pilot, was also caught doodling with the help! To my absolute surprise, I thought he was just drinking again as he was an alcoholic!! 6 years later he has lost his job, his health and me, but I have gained the most amazing love of my life, a beautiful house and my dream career! I predict you will do the same ❤️ Hang in there with much love and support from all that love you!
As an admirer from afar, I have always enjoyed your great style and wit throughout your blog....although I don’t know you personally, I feel connected and this post touched me with your honesty and bravery. I continue to think about you and send positive thoughts and strength to you.
Oh Sherry,
I am so very sorry for what you are enduring. He took the most contemptible and irresponsible way to end the marriage, and where is the part about trying to work it out first? You deserve better. And, wise woman that you are, you know better will come.
Draw your peeps and family about you. Whenever you return here we will be glad to see/hear you. We will be here.
But, first of all, you take care of you.
Part of what got me through my divorce, in addition to family and friends: my friend found me the attorney in town that makes other attorneys think "oh shit" when they hear who is the opposition; and a smart and compassionate psychologist who helped me see that I was on the precipice of a great creative breakthrough. Attorney to protect you, psychologist to help you heal.
I send you love and support as an internet sister.
What a coward he is.
A real (expletive) coward.
You, Sherry, are the complete opposite.
You are a class act and so brave to share this.
I'm sending loving & positive vibes your way.
https://www.marriage.com/advice/counseling/know-about-spousal-abandonment-syndrome/
After reading all 110 previous comments, I agree with most - especially the love of your posts and your honesty and pain - as well as your need for a flaming-glow-in-the-dark accomplished divorce attorney and the compassionate psychologist. The main thing I learned from the latter was to completely 'feel my feelings' and not ignore them. Scream, cry, cuss and taking a lesson from Cami, just wallow in them - get them all over yourself. It's going to take time to muddle through the 7 stages of grief, but it's the only way to succeed. I know you will. Wishing you all the best....
I went through the same thing you described and to say it was a shock would be an understatement. You are correct that time is a healer, even when you think the pain will never end. I am sending you hugs via this message and wish I could give them to you in person and be a support for you.
I will be thinking of you in such a difficult time. You are strong. You will thrive once again. Thank you for sharing your pain.
sHERRY,
OMG! Just read your final thoughts of your post. This happened to my best friend 2 years ago.. in an email when she was visiting family. You will persevere. And, you are in Boulder. I just saw the IRES watermark. How did I not figure this out? Laura south of Denver!
Oh Sherry, my heart breaks for you. I had the same thing happen to me years ago, the bastard just up and left and I didn’t see it coming but I can say that once the dust settled I was really glad he did. Once your wounds start to heal, I hope you will realize you’re better off without him. Life will get better, I promise!
All these years you've been sharing your talent and wit with us Sherry. Once again you shared... your pain this time.
I think I can say we all want you to feel better and let the pain, anger and hurt to go away quickly. Well maybe you should hold onto that anger for him a bit longer.
Not comforting so much but time and keeping busy is a help. My dad had left my mom with a phone call after 33 years and that's what got her thru.
Sending good vibes your way Sherry
Sherry! You are truly amazing! Your talent of course, but the way you connect with your readers (fans) has been a gift all these years. I'm so sorry for the pain you are having to deal with...I never know what to say in these times, but saying nothing felt wrong. I'm sending you all good thoughts and wishes!
xo
annie
Sherry - so sorry to be commenting so late. This is sooooo the suckiest thing to be facing, and sharing it is so brave. I hope any vulnerability hangover is gone because it's honorable to be in the arena sharing authentically like this. I just know things are going to be looking up. Holding your hand and hoping this new chapter ushers in more light than you could have imagined. Hang in there, friend. xox
I am so sorry, my heart breaks for your pain. You have to remember you are strong, you are loved and you can do this. I wish you the best in the days to come.
It’s better to be alone than in bad company. Anyone who behaves like that is bad company. You will be very happy again and you’ll have Cami by your side.
sherry
I left the country on that day, and am still away but now with more time on my hands. I read your last blog post and wondered to myself...."what could be wrong"? as I kept reading back my imagination was reeling as to what could have happened. finally the confessional post. stunned for you, heartbroken for you.....so wish I was there to give you a hug and to whisper in your ear....me too, but with warning.
this has been a huge shock to your system and am glad you are sharing this, because we care for and love you, truly. and keep on sharing, for the reasons mentioned. your journey, however painful, will be lifted with love from your family, friends, and readers.
I for one, of many, adore you
I have always had this saying; to get to the other side of the room, you have to walk through it, I will along side you. hang in there girlfriend
xo
debra
Sherry! I am so sorry this happened to you. During times like this, I try to remember the good things in my life. How lucky that you have your sisters near by and Cami at home!
Sherry I had fallen so behind in my blog reading and was shocked to just learn of your sad marriage news. He sucks. I hope you know what a catch you are- your talent, beauty, brains and humor deserves an appreciative, perfect match! You won't be alone for very long- the good ones never are. On a personal note I just wanted to tell you what an inspiration you have been for me- your blog is the second blog I ever read back in the good old days and your brilliance and talent has made a huge impact on me. I have loved all iterations of your design aesthetic and often find myself asking "what would Sherry do?" In short, you are an amazing woman!
Good morning, Sherry. I love this blog, although I don't drop in as often as I'd like.
I'm sorry to hear about your heartbreak. Some men just lose their damn minds and make really bad, stupid decisions, like your husband did. I believe that he will regret this, although you may not ever hear those words from him.
I know that it feels really personal but this bad decision was all about HIM, not you.
He will blame you....but that is not the root cause here. It's something inside him.
I know for sure that people are only as sick as their secrets--- so don't be surprised if some of his secrets start coming out.
My husband of 18 years left me when I was 42 and he was 44. I didn't see it coming at all, as the words DIVORCE had never, ever been said by either of us. It was a huge shock and a devastating blow that stayed with me for years. Friends and family were equally shocked by it, which was some comfort but I still felt like I had PTSD for years afterwards. And I honestly thought he would come back, lol.
He didn't come back and he's now married----for the 3rd time.
I'm 58 now and have never remarried but I have a blessed life and I'm much more compassionate towards others, especially anyone going through divorce. I truly believe that God was saving me from far worse by removing me from a marriage that was not what I thought it was.
Be kind to yourself, get a good attorney and pray that your eyes will be opened to what is really going on with your husband and with you, too. Trust me, God will grant this if you are sincere in wanting to know--- but just be prepared for some more heartbreaking surprises. (Like secret email accounts and an addiction to porn sites, as was my experience.)
You will come through this stronger than you were and your amazing career and support system will lead you gently to the other side. You will be happy again, count on it!!
Sherry,
I'm so sorry to hear this! I knew that something was up but somehow missed this post. You are and always have been one of the strongest women from my perspective. I'm glad you have your sisters and friends nearby. Please know that you are in my thoughts. #teamsherry
Love,
René
Sherry, I am just reading this and am so sorry. How painful. You are one talented and strong woman! All the best in the new year. Xoxo
Hi Sherry, I'm doing some major catching up on your blog this afternoon (I love your writing and your design work!)....and am so very sorry to read your news. How shocking and horrible for you, particularly the manner in which it was done. So glad to hear you have lots of people around you to buoy you through this time!! That same awful Wednesday 9/4 I was diagnosed with metastasized lung cancer, but you know, I feel like the two of us are warriors Sherry and there's a lot of JOY and LIVING and LAUGHTER ahead for both of us!! I just know it and I'm channeling all my bad-assery to you on this fine day. 2020 is going to be filled with beautiful things for you!!!
Sherry, I just now read this particular post, even though I've been seeing hints of something you were going through in other more recent ones. I'm so incredibly sorry to hear this and cannot imagine what you must be going through. I'm 61 and feel like loss like this at this age is exceptionally devastating. It looks like you have a lot of support and love from many friends and family, but I know nothing can replace this kind of life upset. Please know I'm thinking of you and gather inspiration from your courage and strength. You are someone I've always looked up to in the design blog world and hope to hug you in person someday soon!
anonymous from Denver
I too have loved your blog, the sharing your give to all of your readers, its like I am reading a personal note from a dear friend who is open and insightful and funny and spunky and above all stylish. Nora Ephrom comes to mind but I do no want to diminish what
you are with your writing and being by making a comparison. I saw the absence of said husband, never understood as you were working
in Boulder for his daughter and son-in-law that there was never a mention of him accompanying you there. I grew up in Boulder in the early 1960's, and although it has changed drastically, my heart still skips a beat when I crest that last hill that reveals BOULDER, a purely magical place. I just never understood why he was never there, to go the flatirons for dinner that overlooks the city. All this magic was there for him to see and experience, the HILL and PEARL STREET, Boulder in the fall is Heaven. not to mention the beautiful campus.
I know you have connections with accomplished,
smart, classy professional people and I wish and hope that they have been looking out for you and thinking of appropriate people who would be worthy of you, your company, Cami and all you have to offer. I hope you've retained a competent lawyer. IT IS TIME FOR A LIL WAR, 26 years of due process. love to you, suzanne
anonymous from Denver
I too have loved your blog, the sharing your give to all of your readers, its like I am reading a personal note from a dear friend who is open and insightful and funny and spunky and above all stylish. Nora Ephrom comes to mind but I do no want to diminish what
you are with your writing and being by making a comparison. I saw the absence of said husband, never understood as you were working
in Boulder for his daughter and son-in-law that there was never a mention of him accompanying you there. I grew up in Boulder in the early 1960's, and although it has changed drastically, my heart still skips a beat when I crest that last hill that reveals BOULDER, a purely magical place. I just never understood why he was never there, to go the flatirons for dinner that overlooks the city. All this magic was there for him to see and experience, the HILL and PEARL STREET, Boulder in the fall is Heaven. not to mention the beautiful campus.
I know you have connections with accomplished,
smart, classy professional people and I wish and hope that they have been looking out for you and thinking of appropriate people who would be worthy of you, your company, Cami and all you have to offer. I hope you've retained a competent lawyer. IT IS TIME FOR A LIL WAR, 26 years of due process. love to you, suzanne
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